Neither God nor others will give self-esteem. Instead, it is rooted in two specific and controllable character traits. First, you need to develop and exercise humility to forgive yourself and others. Second, you need to be disciplined to make power decisions for yourself and your clients. Self-esteem comes from strength, and power comes from habitually making empowerment decisions.
One of the interesting things I noticed about the development of self-esteem is that it is a relatively new issue. From the colonial United States to the Second World War, books, sermons, and newspapers did not mention it. Perhaps when people are engaged in a big and noble cause, or the fierce challenge of survival, self-respect is not a problem worthy of attention.
Today, almost everything except cancer is attributed to low self-esteem. Here are some samples of some "experts" (including some self-designated) about self-esteem: (I comment in brackets)
- The war began with a lack of self-esteem. (If everyone has healthy self-esteem, there will be no war.from
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- When we were young, our self-esteem was instilled in us. (If you don't have healthy self-esteem when you reach adulthood, you will suffer, and you may do very little?from
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- Our low self-esteem deprives us of our confidence, even if we make the smallest decisions. (Low self-esteem leads to loss of power?from
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- Raising your self-esteem can enhance your self-confidence and is the first step towards a happy and beautiful life. (If you are not happy or dissatisfied with life, low self-esteem may be the culprit?from
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Can I suggest a real-life check?
I think the story of Charles Atlas illustrates the correct development of self-esteem. At the age of 17, Atlas was a 97-pound coward. He could have felt sorry for himself, or formed a "life unfair" view, or his problem is indeed someone else's fault. He may even decide to find ways to "balance" with everyone he thinks is bigger, stronger or more successful than him. Instead, he chose personal empowerment because, as he later said, "no one chooses a strong man."
Atlas is not alone. From Helen Keller to Nick Vujicic, many great men and women face major personal challenges. Everyone has a choice: self-pity or self-improvement.
Each of us can use the same options. Power, strength and self-esteem can be built by simply making consistent empowerment decisions. These choices are divided into three key areas: how to use time, how to use funds, and how to use energy.
You can test it. Make a 'sprite list'. If you have a magical elf, you can order these things for you. This is a list of everything you have to do. Next, look at the list and select the item that has been delayed for the longest time.
Now, since you don't have a magical elf, you have to take care of this project yourself. Do one thing like that.
At this point, you have completed the task or have decided to perform other actions. Both of these reactions are effective in demonstrating this. If you have actually completed this task and have resumed reading this article, you will feel the personal empowerment that comes with the completion of your mission. If you continue to delay, you still feel exhausted and have no inspiration: losing ability. Your decision to complete a task is empowerment, and your decision to avoid the task is to lose power. Are you willing to guess which method can enhance self-esteem?
Your use of money is the same. Using money wisely can enhance your ability. Every time you arrive at the checkbook, you can decide to set it up yourself. Spending money can lead to remorse, self-deprecation and helplessness.
Spend some energy to help those who really need it, and thank you for your help. For example, do some garden work for the elderly or infirm neighbors. Work hard and give it to you all. Then give yourself an attitude check. What do you think of yourself? How is your self-esteem?
Please note that this has nothing to do with how people treat you. It's more about how you treat people and how you use your existing resources. Contrary to the expert opinion mentioned above, low self-esteem is actually the result of decisions and actions, not the cause.
Finally: attend. If you spend your time mentally in the past or in the future, your efforts to develop self-esteem will be severely hampered. You need to participate in life with power and presence. You must understand and participate in the purpose or task of your birth. What you really need is your time, money and energy. Your chances of applying them to your surroundings will determine your strength, your energy, your wealth and your self-esteem.
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